Bad Faith, Again

Wednesday afternoon was a scheduled call from Aiden. In the few seconds I got to talk to Aiden  about last weekend's trip to my home, he said he liked the nearby park and my landlord's dog. We were having a conversation, as opposed to the all-too-frequent, "I don't want to talk to you, Daddy. 'Bye." calls I get.

Then the call was dropped after 57 seconds. I know it was dropped (meaning Aiden did not hang up) because my cell phone display read "CALL LOST."

I immediately called Aiden's mother's cell phone and home phone numbers, saying that the call was dropped, I did NOT hang up, and I would like her to call back so I could continue to speak to Aiden.

Nothing. No response. 


Aiden's mom tells the world she wants me to have a relationship with Aiden, and does her utmost to foster that relationship. But tonight's call was very clear example of how she does almost nothing to ACTUALLY make a relationship possible. Everything she does is for show. When she makes the court-ordered two calls per week--which she does not do consistently-- she prompts Aiden to hang up or, like tonight, never calls back. If you doubt this, I would be more than happy to show you my phone records and have you listen to the recordings of the calls.

Nothing Aiden's mom does is in good faith. When I requested to attend Aiden's doctor's appointment during my last trip to California, she sent me only the address of the giant medical facility where the appointment was; she never told me the name of the doctor. When I did manage to attend the appointment--much to her surprise--and had to leave immediately afterward to attend a conference with Aiden's teachers, she never told  me at the time that Aiden had another appointment--a follow-up with a specialist--immediately after the first appointment. She only casually mentioned in an e-mail later that they had seen another doctor after I had left.  I'm sure she didn't "forget" to mention the second of two back-to-back appointments . It was clearly done deliberately to exclude me from actually being present at Aiden's medical care. Then she sent me a message about the second appointment so she can claim, "Oh, I told Rick about that--I sent him an email." Her bad faith knows no bounds. 

Since she claimed that Aiden needed to see his therapist in order to process having an overnight visit with me (I'm not even going to get into how strange that is, given the amount of time Aiden has spent happily  with me), I asked Aiden's mom for the therapist's name. She sent me only the first name  of the therapist, along with the name of the giant medical center where this person supposedly works. Ummmm... first names are not enough, Aiden's mom...if you were really sincere about including me in Aiden's "treatment"--and isn't this all about Aiden seeing ME overnight--wouldn't you include the therapist's last name,as well?  


No? I thought not. It's all about the ability to say "But I sent Rick that information!" without actually sending me any information I can act on--for example, actually call the therapist. It's all show with Aiden's mom...she rarely, if ever, does anything in good faith. I challenge her to to do anything in good faith--I will certainly post it.