Duck, Dive, and Divert

Back when I was married to Aiden's mom, she came up with a slogan that described her preferred method of dealing (or rather, NOT dealing) with the people and situations she would rather ignore and put off until they gave up and went away (such as pesky creditors trying to collect overdue payments): Duck, Dive and Divert. She's honed her skills at ducking, diving and diverting for many years, and now she is a master.

I've sent Aiden's mother two e-mail messages (with the same two messages sent in OurFamilyWizard), one each yesterday and the day before (11/29 and 11/28) saying:

Remember that the court order states I can see Aiden two out of every three days I am in California. I am available Saturday and Sunday, so those are the days I would like to have visits.

Yesterday's message also said:

 I would like to see Aiden on Saturday and Sunday this weekend. Please respond so we can set up visit times and pick-up/drop-off locations.

So far, her only response (sent yesterday just before 10 p.m.) has been:

what happened to your desire to see Aiden on Wed?

Her question about Wednesday visits was in reference to a series of messages that last discussed weekday visits three days ago (Sunday, 11/27).

You can see she resorts to her tried-and-true tactics here--diverting the discussion from my requested weekend visits to the old topic of weekday visits, and ducking the current topic of Saturday and Sunday visits. Her response is not in good faith to address the serious co-parenting issue of establishing my regular visitation with Aiden, now that I reside in California.


Her Duck, Dive and Divert strategy ultimately results in the fourth "D," --  the Denial of Aiden's rightful relationship with his father.