The Sounds of Silence

So far, Aiden's mother has not responded to any of my e-mails or OurFamilyWizard messages asking her to let me see Aiden. In fact, she has still not even opened any of the three OurFamilyWizard messages. 

I also left two phone messages (one each on her home phone and cell phone) both today and yesterday; she neither answered those calls nor responded to them.

Regardless of whether you believe I should be able to see my son this Thanksgiving weekend, her lack of consideration in failing to respond to my messages (though typical) is indisputable. I first let her know I wanted to see Aiden this weekend on November 18, more than a week ago. I understand that she may have had plans, but even so, why couldn't she have taken literally a minute to send a short e-mail saying, "Sorry, Rick, but I have plans"?  Ignoring my messages/calls is just plain rude, and certainly no way to foster a successful co-parenting relationship.


Knowing that her lack of response will prompt me to call her daily asking to see Aiden, I believe Aiden's mom may turn around and accuse me of "harassing" her. She did exactly that last August through October, filing six police reports against me for allegedly calling her at all hours. After I sent the police copies of my phone records, and clear evidence that she had previously made false phone-harassment allegations against me in court (See the previous post Phony Phone Records here), nothing ever came of these reports. But she may try that tactic again.


All I want is to see Aiden regularly. I want Aiden's mom to acknowledge that it's important for Aiden to have a strong relationship with me--and then actually take the actions to foster that relationship. Denying me time with Aiden even after I move to California, ignoring my calls and messages, and forcing me to use the courts to get even moderately reasonable time with Aiden, all speak to her malice toward me. I'd rather we just cooperated, but I can't reason with someone who seems bent on withholding our son from me. I just moved 2600 miles from my home of three years to show Aiden--and everyone else--that I am serious about being there for him consistently, a basic part of his life, and that I'm not willing to settle for anything less.