Phony phone records

On Nov 9th, Aiden's mom and I had a court hearing concerning the Temporary Restraining Order she filed against me on Aug 26th, when I was again in California. I won't go into it here, but suffice it to say she made many allegations against me that I was ultimately able to prove were totally fabricated.

After I left California on September 1st, she filed four more police reports (in addition to the two she had already filed) saying that I had been harassing her by phone, while the TRO was in effect.

Her allegations are untrue, and simply do not make any sense. Why on earth would I "stalk" and "harass" her when I've been trying so desperately to have more contact with Aiden? In particular, why would I harass her by phone in direct violation of the TRO, while at the same time spending literally thousands of dollars in travel costs and attorney fees, trying to get the court to see me as a good dad and grant me more visitation time with my son? I would certainly not jeopardize my chances of seeing Aiden by doing things like that; it's just not logical.

In court, Aiden's mom presented a Verizon cell phone bill as "proof" of my harassing calls. I've attached it here. The thing is, all it proved was that she was lying to the judge.

In her phone bill, she chose not to include the columns (seen in my bill) that show where the call originated from, and its destination. Without this information, there's no way to tell which calls are incoming, and which are outgoing. She has marked "Rick" next to all the calls she says were from me, harassing her. Calls from me, on Tuesdays at 5:30 PM and Saturdays at 7:00 PM Pacific, are my scheduled call times with Aiden. These appear on my phone bill for 9/25 and 9/28 as calls to Alamitos, CA. Because she didn't answer those calls, they don't appear on her bill.

One of the ways she falsified the bill was to mark calls as being from me, even though they were calls she made to me . If you look at my own cell phone bill (here) on 9/25 (highlighted in pink), you see two calls clearly marked "Incoming CL" at 10:29 AND 10:35 (Eastern). Look on her bill: the pink-highlighted calls at 7:29 and 7:35 (Pacific) she has marked as calls I made to her--strange, as they were incoming to my phone.

But the most damning evidence is all the calls she attributes to me that have the listed phone number of 000-000-0086. Those calls (8 on this page, 47 over the billing period record she submitted!) are most certainly NOT from me, because they are calls she made to her own voice mail (marked in yellow) to retrieve her messages. If you look on my phone bill (also from Verizon), you can clearly see that calls to that number (dialed as *86) are calls to voice mail (also in yellow), as they are marked "Voice Mail CL".

Saying in court that those calls were from me, when she obviously knew they were not, is perjury. It's proof that she will do and say almost anything to keep me out of Aiden's life (her original TRO requested that I have no contact with Aiden as well as her).

In court, the judge saw that she was obviously lying about the phone calls (and about other allegations that I was able to solidly debunk), and the TRO was completely dropped.

I'm thankful for that...but her behavior scares me. She actually told a friend that she looked forward to seeing me arrested. Exaggerating stories about your ex is one thing; knowingly presenting false evidence in court, and filing police reports and restraining orders based on these lies and outright fabrications, is something entirely different.

I'm an adult, so I can handle whatever she throws my way. But Aiden is being raised by a mother who believes that lies serve as well as the truth to accomplish her ends. I hope this is one lesson he does not learn from her.