Withholding telephone access to Aiden -and- bait to violate a dubious TRO

Fully 80% of my recent scheduled calls to Aiden have gone unanswered and never returned.  Meanwhile, my legal challenge to Aiden's mother's dubious Temporary Restraining Order has not yet been heard in court, although the judge did order 3 one-hour visits while I am here in California. Until then, I am must not contact Aiden's mother (which suits me fine, frankly). Yet, at the same time, she maliciously mislabels my scheduled calls to Aiden (which the TRO allows) as "harassment", and has filed six police reports accordingly.

Here's my latest attempt to contact Aiden for a regularly scheduled call...

Aiden's Mom: "Hello?" 
me: Telephone access to Aiden, please. 
AM: "He's not here, but he's planning on seeing you on Thursday." 
me: I'm calling for Aiden. 
AM: "Hey! Rick? I have a question, why did you hire a private investigator instead of hiring David Karoda? We would have been a lot further and a lot more amicable." 
me: I can't contact you right now. I'd like to speak with my son, because it's the regularly scheduled time. If he is not available at this regularly scheduled time, he may call me back later this evening at his conven... 
AM: [interrupting] "Well, he's planning on seeing you Thursday." 
me: I look forward to seeing Aiden on Thursday at Chick-Fil-A at 5 o'clock. Do I remember that correctly? 
AM: "I dunno. Do you?" 
me: Do you? Is he... 
AM: [interrupting] "So why did you hire a private investigator instead of... Why did you want to dig up dirt, instead of just like coming to a mediation, that would have got you a lot farther?" 
me: This is not an appropriate conversation. I was calling for Aiden. Have Aiden call me when he is available. Thank you. [*I* disconnected]

Before I learned how very expensive it is, I offered to pay for mediation with a professional mediator. Thus, to ensure that she would actually cooperate and not just waste the mediator's time and my money, I asked her to contribute half or at least a significant portion of the expense. In my mind, her loud refusal simply confirms that she was never really motivated to help me restore my participation in Aiden's life.

I could care less what she does with her life, but Aiden needs his daddy.